Threesomes Are Our Spice Of Life

Three Way Fun

Whenever we feel that the flames in our sexual relationship are dying, my wife and I usually arrange for a threesome as a way of igniting the marital passions and enlivening and fortifying our marriage.

Sexual SparksHowever, we make sure to discuss everything together. Arranging for a successful threesome requires effort. There is need for more communication in threesomes and foursomes than would otherwise be the case in twosomes.

First we always make sure we that discuss and are clear about what we want in the sexual experience. Transparency and honesty is necessary in any marriage or relationship.

We also discuss with our prospective partners about, for example, how long will it take whether to have sex or just foreplay and whether kissing would be okay. We have always preferred to stick to a threesome or foursome because we find orgies, that’s, encounters of more than four partners a bit chaotic.

The best place to get prospective partners is the internet and not Craigslist as we informed some time ago, but thats another story I shall write about soon. There are websites which are dedicated to connecting swingers singles and couples and I will go into detail about these sites in a later post as well.

Strangers Not Friends 

It is always better to avoid friends when looking for people to engage with in threesomes because in case things don’t go well, it would be much easier to cope with a stranger than with someone you are tied up with, our first 3some happened in New York with a stranger and thats how we like it, with new people that we don’t know. 

We also make sure we practice safe sex by being aware of the medical history of our prospective partners and ascertaining that things such as condoms, deodorants and dental products are nearby. Oral hygiene is necessary for everyone.

So every person has to make sure he has good breath and good body odour so that he/she does not become a turn-off to potential partners.

Cleanliness Is Essential

We always advice our prospective partners to make sure they have showered and are well groomed before they come for the party. Appropriate perfumes, cologne or body spray can make a big difference.

Sexy DeodorantWe also ensure that everybody agrees on not pulling any tricks such as removing the condom during the act. Keeping things safe is important. With safety taken care of it becomes possible to enjoy the experience without having to worry.

We always start the session by ensuring there is a light hearted atmosphere. Playing a game such as chess or bridge while sipping wine or beer which helps set up the mood and makes people more relaxed. This is gradually followed by caressing and undressing as everyone slowly plunges into action.

I always ensure to my wife that these swinging experiences are not going to be a replacement to our one-on-one intimacy. So we often set up rules to follow and are honest towards each other.

I make sure that whenever I am participating in a threesome or foursome encounter, she is also around. I also make sure that I never do anything during threesome or foursome sex that I have never done before with her.

It is actually not possible to satisfy another sexually over a long period of time as in marriage. So swinging adds excitement in a marriage and can save it from ruin. So rather than have an illicit extramarital adventure behind your partners back it is better that you both get involved in an otherwise legitimate affair.

This has always served for me and my wife the double function of satisfying our inner passions as well as doing away with any guilt that would have otherwise resulted from having an illicit love affair.

SwingersWe have been able to develop greater trust towards each other, besides learning new sexual techniques which has brought liveliness and satisfaction in what could have otherwise become a dreary marital coitus. 

However, one should try to do away with the guilty feeling that inhibits one from wanting to experiment sexually.

Sex Is Good For You

Such a feeling is as a result of the misconceptions that we are all brought up with since science has shown that experimenting sexually is not only okay but could boost our psychological and physiological health when done in the right way.

There’s everything to be gained, therefore, and nothing to be lost when a threesome or swinging excursion or wife swapping is carried out in the right way. When not done rightly, on the other hand it could lead one into a world of inhibited sexual adventure and subsequent disenchantment with one’s marriage.


Our First Threesome In New York

New York Three Way

MFF Threesome

My wife and I recently went to New York for a long romantic weekend break and we stayed in a very plush hotel which my wife loved. To say that she was delighted with my choice of hotel would be an understatement. So that night when we unpacked our cases and sat on our huge kings size bed drinking champaign we both got a little tipsy and ended up having great sex for most of the night.

The following day involved all the usual sight seeing and shopping trips to all the big stores, but the evening bought a very pleasant and unexpected meeting with a beautiful woman who was also staying in the same hotel. We met Susan in the lounge bar sitting on her own with a laptop and a glass of wine. We all got on extremely well and retired to a more comfortable seating area and chatted for hours.

Back To My Room For Wine Excuse

Susan then suggested we go back to her room to finish off a bottle of red wine she had bought earlier in the day. To my surprise and I must admit I really did not see this coming, but my wife started kissing Susan as soon as we entered her room, the next thing I knew they were both naked and lying on the bed this is when they both demanded I join them.

It took me all of five seconds to strip naked and jump on the bed with them, and from there on we tried everything and every position you could think of. The sex was out of this world and the fact my wife enjoyed every moment of it just turned me on even more. I won’t go into too much detail for my first post, but needless to say we met up the following night and it happened all over again.

For our very first three way it went extremely well and it just opened up so many other sexual avenues for us. If this chance meeting had never happened who would know how our sex lives would be now, a lot less exciting I’m sure. My wife and myself are so grateful for the day we met Susan, it really has changed our lives for the better, and we still meet up with Susan on occasions.

It Worked For Us

I guess it worked out great for us, and we still have 3somes with other people on a weekly basis, but after hearing stories from others who have tried a three way and it has not worked for them or it has made things worse, then I would say put some serious thought into it and if one partner is in a doubt then don’t do it at all.

Three Way MFF

You both have to be comfortable with sharing each other with another person, you have to be confident that this is something you want to do, you can’t let jealous thoughts enter your head because if they do it will cause more harm than good.

Basically use common sense and approach it light heartedly at first and once it looks like the threesome is going to happen then put serious thoughts and questions into it. You both will need to talk it through together and both need to be certain it’s what you both want.

Talk About It

Ok it didn’t happen like that with us because it was not planned, but after our first threesome we did talk a lot about having lots more with different people, and we both really wanted to try it, so yes for us it worked out great. And if you talk about it with your partner yours should as well. Try looking online at adult dating websites, these are great for finding three way partners.